Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Getting Control of My Day and My Diet – Most of the Time!


Photo: Mr. Wilson (Flickr)

 “Though enormously talented and loaded with potential, Sheryl H. Boldt seems unable to follow through on several commitments she’s made to herself. Rumors have it that the promising writing projects, she had once been so passionate about, may become the latest casualty of her apparent inability to manage her time wisely – mostly due to her spending too much time watching television and on the Internet. Even her once svelte figure is all but a memory due to her missing too many days of exercise …”

The opening paragraph is a mock narrative I envision the Biography Channel running about me. Although it’s a bit of an exaggeration, the resulting anxiety and depression I experience after another unproductive day often causes me to feel defeated and worthless.

It saddens me to see how some of the people actually featured on the Biography Channel wasted away their lives with drinking, drugs, and harmful relationships. Although not as devastating as those choices, I find the foolish ways I choose to use my time very detrimental, too.

Some days are worse than others; however, if it wasn’t for the mutual accountability I’ve found with this blog, I would practically remain in a constant state of anxiety and depression.

Joining others as we set daily task and health-related goals helps us to be more effective with our time and choices! The support and prayers have been invaluable. Thankfully, I’m now becoming more consistent in checking things off of my to-do list. Consequently, I go to bed most nights feeling better about my day. (See the Immediate Goals (Coffee with Sheryl Blog) and the Eating and Exercising Habits (both blogs) pages by clicking on the Current Goals tab.)

 Psalm 90:12 (NKJV)
So teach us to number our days,
That we may gain a heart of wisdom.

A Biography Channel update:

“Sheryl H. Boldt has taken positive steps in realizing some of her dreams. Rumor now has it that she has been receiving help from some pretty awesome people on her blogs: Coffee with Sheryl Blog and the Memorizing Scripture Blog. As Sheryl continues to recover from her TV and Internet addictions, she has just completed her latest inspirational piece for her blogs. And with her astonishing now week-long record of daily exercising, she is already experiencing better muscle tone and improved energy levels.”

Prayer:
Father, I want to make every day productive! Please help me to be more responsible with the time and opportunities You’ve given me. Please continue to show the ladies and me how to effectively help and encourage each other with our choices so we can honor You each day.

This week’s Goal and practical application:
This week, with God’s help, I will meditate (with intent to memorize) Psalm 90:12 as I strive to make each day a productive one.

For instance, each evening I will visit the Immediate Goals  and the Eating and Exercising Habits pages to post my goals for the next day. I will commit to the ladies that I will revisit the pages during the day whenever I “get stuck” or begin to swerve off course.

What do you think?

  • Do you struggle with procrastination or not managing your time wisely? If so, how?
  • Would accountability help you develop a more consistent exercise habit or make better food choices?


If we can help you, please consider joining us in setting daily goals! It really works and can be fun, too!

Note: Memorizing Scripture Blog (for anyone) and the Coffee with Sheryl blog (for ladies) both have the Current Goals tab located under the blogs' headers. "Current Goals" offers several practical links including topics such as: being a better spouse or parent, choosing better eating and exercising habits, overcoming addictions, dealing with depression, etc. The Immediate Goals link (for setting task-related goals) is only available at the Coffee with Sheryl Blog

You may use pseudonyms (fake names).

Thursday, May 15, 2014

Need to Forgive Someone?

A little over a year ago, one of my visitors to the blog asked me (via email) how I handled Mother’s Day. Due to constant rejection from her mother, she has a difficult time “celebrating” the day. And since I know many have similar issues with their moms - and others, including their dads - I thought I’d share what I wrote to her again with you. (I changed her name.) Be sure to read the paragraph before this week's verse.
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Photo by Tavallai (Flickr)

Tina, I have a minute so I’m going to take a stab at this topic. First of all, I’m so sorry for all the pain you are experiencing.  :(

Pain is painful. You may want to write that one down!  :)

And rejection always hurts.

As a child and teenager, I didn’t understand why my mother slept all day. I resented her mostly for not getting up and being like other moms. I would have given anything if she would have taught me how to cook, keep house and how to be a wife and mom. Looking back, I realize she was depressed, and she truly did the best she could.

A few months before she died, she wanted to be there for me. I was struggling again with an eating disorder and other destructive behavior and she wanted to travel from Florida to Louisiana to help me.

Unfortunately she was unable to make the trip due to tremendous pain she was suffering - which we soon learned was from cancer. When she phoned to say she wouldn’t be coming, she expressed how sorry she was for not being a good mom. I thank God I had the opportunity to tell her that I loved and forgave her. (Neither of us knew she was dying.)

I realize, Tina, that it is easier to forgive someone when they're sorry. I pray one day your mom will see her ways and that she will experience mercy from God - and from you.

But, dear friend, do not wait for her to act first. Forgive her with the same forgiveness God extends to you. However, don’t tell her you forgive her, because if she doesn’t respond “the right way” you will be setting yourself up for disappointment.

And Tina, I strongly encourage you to meditate/memorize scriptures on God’s forgiveness for you. Plus, ask God to show you the times He’s forgiven you. Then ask Him to help you forgive your mom, asking Him to have mercy on her, too – the same mercy He has shown you.

I suggest you buy the book Total Forgiveness by R. T. Kendall. A lot of what I’m saying, I learned (or re-learned) from his book. I have added a link for R. T. Kendall's Ministries  to My Blog List.

I hope none of this sounds trite, Tina. I sincerely hope I didn’t minimize the pain you are experiencing. I will be praying for you.

Another thought: Forgiveness isn’t earned. Aren’t you glad?  :)
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Dear reader, if your relationship with your mom, dad or anyone else is strained, consider taking steps to allow God to heal the relationship(s). Set a goal (with God's help!) to practice the verse below  and see what God will do in your heart - and maybe in the other person's heart, too. Who knows, for some of you, maybe this Father's Day (and/or next Mother's Day) will be one you will always want to remember!

Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Feel free to share your comments.

Note: Memorizing Scripture Blog (for anyone) and the Coffee with Sheryl blog (for ladies) both have the Current Goals tab located under the blogs' headers. "Current Goals" offers several practical links including topics such as: being a better spouse or parent, choosing better eating and exercising habits, overcoming addictions, dealing with depression, etc. The Immediate Goals link (for setting task-related goals) is only available at the Coffee with Sheryl Blog

You may use pseudonyms (fake names).

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

A Candid Story That Will Give You Hope

May 2006 (Photo by Joan Hodges)
As you read today's blog, I hope it will offer you genuine hope for your marriage. Last time, I re-posted one of my favorite posts in honor of Bert and my eighth wedding anniversary. This week, I am posting my "other favorite" post.

Here is part of our story:
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“Lord, I’m messing up badly. I’ve treated Bert so ugly for such a long time. I’ve tried to change – I
really want to change – but I seem to constantly give into yelling and complaining about everything."

For years, I prayed, believed, and dreamed of being a better wife; but I never thought God would be able to do all He has done in me – and in my marriage!

This is one of the reasons I couldn’t wait to begin writing about our last verse as we learn to apply and meditate on Ephesians 3:16-20, one verse at a time:

Ephesians 3:20 (Amplified)
Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]

Here’s a little of my story:

For a while, I had been noticing how critical and angry I had been acting, especially when I felt rejected by Bert. And of course, the more angry I became, the more Bert rejected me. My bad behavior and attitudes were so constant that it felt as if they were being permanently added to my character DNA.

Was I able to change? God, please change me!

One morning, after I had my devotions, I opened Dr. Emerson Eggerich’s book, Love & Respect, and read several testimonies from ladies who described their disrespectful behavior towards their husbands. I felt shame as I saw myself in many of their stories.

I realized I wasn’t totally responsible for the demise of my marriage, but I couldn’t deny my contributions. The more I read the book, the more I could see how my constant criticism (including the tone of my voice and rolling my eyes) undermined my husband.

During this time, I also read R. T. Kendall’s words in his book, Total Forgiveness, regarding the rewards for totally forgiving those who hurt us. Thankfully, he went on to remind me that I, too, am in need of mercy and forgiveness. I cried into my hands as I repented again for my angry, spiteful and self-righteous heart. Before the day ended, I made Scripture Memory Cards (SMCs) with verses on forgiveness.

As I began to practice the principles presented in Dr. Eggerichs’ and Mr. Kendall’s books, I started to behave and think differently. Instead of nagging Bert to eat healthy, I bought food I knew he liked. Instead of lecturing him about going to church or having a quiet time, I remained quiet and prayed for him. The house, which was always impossible for me to keep up before, now stayed neat and tidy. And when he came home, I made sure I was pretty.  Most importantly, with God’s help, I chose to forgive Bert for his failures, and continued to take responsibility for mine.

I didn’t do any of these things perfectly, but my repentance was real. As I prayed constantly and meditated on God’s Word every day, I could sense God’s presence penetrating my innermost being.

God continued to give me grace to behave like the wife Bert thought he married.

Then one incredible evening, I saw tears in Bert’s eyes. “Sheryl, I never had anyone love me like you do. I never had someone who was willing to stay with me, in spite of my selfish, self-centered behavior.” He reached for my hand and pulled me closer to him. “Will you forgive me?”

Thus, a new, sweeter—more loving and respectful—marriage began.

Now every day, while cleaning the kitchen, making sales calls from my home office, preparing supper, and while lying in bed at the end of the day, I continuously thank God for doing superabundantly more than I ever imagined possible in me, in Bert – in us.

What is your deepest desire?
It may be a desire you’ve never told anyone, maybe never even dared to whisper to yourself because it seemed too impossible or too great.

This week, would you consider doing these things?

  • For five minutes every day, meditate on and/or memorize Ephesians 3:20
  • Throughout each day, ask God to help you know that He loves and cares about you
  • Purpose in your heart (with God’s help) to grow in your faith to believe that He is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above your expectations


Feel free to share your comments.

Note: Memorizing Scripture Blog (for anyone) and the Coffee with Sheryl blog (for ladies) both have the Current Goals tab located under the blogs' headers. "Current Goals" offers several practical links including topics such as: being a better spouse or parent, choosing better eating and exercising habits, overcoming addictions, dealing with depression, etc. The Immediate Goals link (for setting task-related goals) is only available at the Coffee with Sheryl Blog

You may use pseudonyms (fake names).
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