Psalm 39:1 (NASB)
I said, “I will guard my ways that I may not sin with my tongue;
I will guard my mouth as with a muzzle…”
Psalm 39:1 (AMP)
I said, I will take heed and guard my ways, that I may sin not with my tongue; I will muzzle my mouth as with a bridle…
“Call me back when you have something better. I expected more from you.”
I got off the phone a little stunned. I could almost feel the scrape across my soul in the pit of my stomach. Sales is a tough profession. And though I receive a lot more complimentary words than critical ones, a critical word always affects me – it’s demoralizing at times. And as this unsettling feeling lingered, I decided again that I don’t want to cause others – especially Bert – to experience similar feelings due to my insensitive comments.
Instead I want to be known – again, especially by Bert – as one who encourages and supports another.
In context, Psalm 39 is referring to holding your tongue in the presence of an enemy. Let’s agree our husbands (or the person we’re in conflict with) are not our enemies – even though we sometimes behave as if they are.
Certainly, there are times when our husbands (or others) push our buttons, and treat us unfairly. But what if, even then we muzzle our tongues and pray instead.
My immediate prayer would have to be, “Lord, help me stay quiet!” (They say God can do anything, right?) Then, what if my very next prayer would be one for my husband?
After all, what is my purpose as Bert’s wife? Certainly not to change him to my standards.
And how is my character being defined as I yield, or not yield, to God’s grace? Do I yield to Love, or to the enemy’s maliciousness?
Unfortunately for me, many times holding my tongue only lasts a very short while – a few seconds! But, I’m not giving up (and neither is Bert, thankfully) I can see that God is at work within me, and each time I actually yield to God’s grace to hold my tongue, it gives me confidence that I’ll do it again.
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