This week I’m starting a new feature: The last Friday of each month, my wonderful husband, Bert, will give a male’s perspective on some of the things we’ve been focusing on during the month. And here's my husband:
Bert’s Perspective on 1 Corinthians 13:5 (NASB)
(love) does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
In regard to this verse, what comes to my mind are these thoughts which I’m trying to live by:
• Just because we have been wronged by another person, our love for that person should be genuine/pure. Not forced out of obligation.
I’ve recently had an experience with a former colleague that will cost me over $7,000.00. But I know I’m required by God’s standards to love him in spite of it. A Christian brother counseled me to pray and stay connected to him because of some probable issues that may have caused him to renege on his commitments. I have to look at the fact that God has a plan for my life regardless of (and may include) these types of scenarios.
• Love resists threats to undermine it from outside forces such as: greed, selfishness, fear, and intimidation, etc.
I call these things outside forces because they distract me from the joy of loving others. When I get overwhelmed with these things, I try to remember to focus on the Lord Jesus Christ’s love for me.
• Love considers the other person first before self.
• Love is solid, consistent, unchanging. It doesn’t waver in spite of life’s little annoyances.
My love for Sheryl doesn’t become any less just because of something she does or says at the moment. True, I do get annoyed and angry sometimes, but those momentary incidents are not deal breakers for me. My love for her is far reaching and looks forward to the future with her.
Our responsibility as married men is to cultivate a greater love for our wives than when we were first married. We love not out of obligation, but out of a passionate desire to act on God’s will within our lives. Not that this comes easy for us, we just keep working at it.
Men, am I alone on this?
Keep up the good work, Sheryl. See you at home.
Bert B. Boldt, II